Updated: Oct 19, 2020
There is no way in which I can explain why mental health is important without disappointing others.
If you see someone crying, you can't just go up to them and order them to stop crying because they should be strong. You can't tell them their problems don't matter.
It sounds heartless, doesn't it? Going up to someone and telling them this? But it's the reality. It's what happens all the time. Most people avoid talking about the problems of others because they think it's dumb or to be honest, 'unimportant'.
We're raised in a world of hope and happiness but when we finally grow up and see the real world, it's so hard not to fall apart.
Chasing dreams can be stressful sometimes, friends can be fake, lovers can break your heart and your nice parents can turn out to be 'not so nice' sometimes. It's just how things are, right?
We all just keep the pain to ourselves because the society we live in thinks these are normal problems and everyone suffers so it's not a big deal. But it is.
Because if it wasn't, thousands of people, especially teenagers who have yet to see most of the world, wouldn't be taking their own lives.
I hear people say they were too weak for this world and let me just clarify how bullshit I think that supposition is.
People who suicide are not weak, they're just people with big dreams, like us, who were so much in pain that even death sounded peaceful to them. And wanting to end one's pain does not make them weak, it makes them normal.
"They could've talked to me, they could've talked to someone"
But then, did we ever make them feel comfortable enough to confide in us?
You gotta ask yourself, are you really making sure the people you love know that you'll be there for them no matter what?
You gotta ask yourself if you've let them know that they can talk to you about anything.
We have to change. We have to normalize therapy, we have to normalize being sad and talk about mental health without being ashamed. We can't just go around telling people to be strong and that everything's gonna be okay. We can't tell them to just 'get over it' and suppress their emotions. We just gotta be there, talk to them and relate to their pain and let them know that it's okay to feel like that.
We all might not have the same reason for our pain but trust me, we all feel it. We all understand the feeling:
"What the hell is happening?"
"This doesn't make any sense"
It's okay to cry. It's okay to feel like everything's falling apart. It's okay to wanna give up sometimes.
It's okay to say 'Please help'.
Most people before jumping off a ledge or before slitting their wrists, think about how alone they are in their pain.
How big of a difference it could make if they knew they weren't alone, if they knew it was normal to feel how they're feeling. We can't bring back the people we've lost but we can try to save the ones that are alive.
No one should have to be strong but if we wanna live, I guess we have to, right?
Maybe sharing our pain, being able to talk about it normally, hell, even make memes out of it, maybe that could help us, maybe that could help the person who's thinking about ending it all right now.